There's no such thing. In fact, life is all about choices. In any circumstances, we will make decision to choose. For instance, I have met several students saying that "I din't apply for this course", "it's not my choice", "lady's choice" etc. However, these students CHOOSE to further their study even though it is someone else's choice. In the end, it is his/her choice anyway.

So, in any condition or whatever had happened in our lives, we always have the choice. We still have the options on HOW TO DEAL WITH IT. This HOW TO DEAL WITH IT option also comes with several options itself such as "endure it all by yourself", "seek help from the pros", "ask your friends' advices" and so on.

See? Life is all about CHOICES.